Dream Question: Why am I smoking a cigar?

Sarah writes: “I was given a cigar by a handsome stranger. I spent the rest of the dream trying to smoke it, whilst hiding it from my parents! I kept continuously being interrupted by people whilst all the while looking over my shoulder in case I got caught. Why have I had this dream three times?”

Delphi says:
Cigars in dreams will depend on the context in which they appear but usually focus around either a celebration, status or being relaxed in your own company.

Sigmund Freud, the famous psychoanalyst who loved to interpret dreams, was well known for believing in phallic representation of symbols, his Freudian school of thought suggesting some form of repressed sexual desire. It’s fair to say for some people this may well be the case.

However, even Freud is believed to have said, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar”.

In the movies, the head of the mob or a wealthy business man is usually seen sitting with his gangsters enjoying a cigar as a symbol of his power and wealth. It may be that at the time of your dream you have been thinking about status and, in particular have some ideas about how to live a more lavish life. You may be in a rare position of authority where you feel comfortable in your surroundings and your every wish is someone else’s command. Or you simply desire it to be that way.

When a baby is born and his or her arrival is celebrated, men (and women) may be seen smoking a cigar. If you’ve had a cigar dream (depending on the context) you may feel it is a time for celebration or that some important reason to celebrate is on the horizon.

All of the above can apply whether you are male of female but traditionally a cigar is a male status symbol. (There are also many different types of cigars which women can and do smoke and of course with dream analysis the interpretation will be subjective). If a woman is dreaming of smoking a cigar, she may be asserting her masculine qualities (or those associated with masculinity) such as strength and power.

A common complaint from non-smokers is the pungent smell which emanates from cigar smoke. If cigar smoke appears in your dream it may be that a powerful (and possibly annoying) character around you in your waking life is hiding you from something which you feel you need to see (or know).

Although cigars are traditionally associated as a male status symbol, what actually interests me most about your dream is the people who appear in it. You were given your cigar by a handsome stranger. This suggests you are being given permission to embrace qualities usually associated with men, like strength and power. Here, the force may be that “male” side of you which is less dominant encouraging you to summon this raw energy whenever you feel like it or inclined to do so. (I will add it’s always worth keeping an eye out for the stranger in your waking life – such is the nature of dreams – you never know!)

In your dream you were trying to smoke the cigar but kept being interrupted. This may acknowledge your desire to relax but mirroring your inability to do so – perhaps you are finding it difficult to have some privacy or quiet time.

The dream included being nervous about hiding your actions from your parents. Dreams can echo fears we have in waking life and it may be that you worry about keeping up appearances, pleasing (and trying to avoid disappointing) those closest to you. The dream may be offering a message that you can do the things you enjoy without reaping a whirlwind of consequence, whilst at the same time measuring the risk of the effects this may have on you and others.

You say you’ve had this dream three times. My tips in summary:

* Take some time to think about when this dream started happening and what may have prompted it
* Keep a dream diary to explore any patterns developing which may hold a clue as to why you’re having it when you do
* Look at the relationships with the people who appear in the dreams – are you hiding things unnecessarily?
* The overall theme of the dream could be about harnessed power – do you need to find the time to relax and let go? If so, start working on an action plan.

Sweet Dreams!

More exciting dreamy stuff, including more questions, interesting insights about dreams and this online dream dictionary at Helping you Sparkle™.

The information provided on this page and through consultations is open to individual interpretation and may only be of entertainment value. It is not intended to replace the advice of your healthcare team; please speak to your doctor before deciding upon any form of action which may affect your health or if you have any concerns about your health and wellbeing. It is up to you, the client, to decide upon the suitability of this service to meet your needs. Any decision to use this service is received through your free will to do so. Legal disclaimer.

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